Many children in America are sheltered. Sheltered as in their parents are afraid for them so they will constantly try to keep their child from any danger and/or violence. Of course every parent would never want to see their child get hurt, or be put in a dangerous situation, or expose them to the evils of the world they do not yet know about or understand. But most parents think that in order to stop these ideas early to try to prevent any sort of conflicting violence, that they should cut out anything and everything that has to do with violence in their children’s lives. They try to steer clear of the shooting video games and revengeful TV shows or movies. Parents try to teach their kids to be nice and to put all of their rage aside and be good little boys and girls. But did you know that rage can be an energizing emotion?
Yes, children feel rage just as we do. Even the most adorable, sweetest little angels with baby blue eyes feel violence, anger, rage and hate. Even if their parents try to teach them differently; it is a natural emotion, a natural feeling that you cannot take away no matter how hard you try. What’s best is to express to your children, or any children for that matter, to be aware and to understand these feelings, and that you do not necessarily need to take it out on someone or something in order to get past it. The feeling is uncontrollable, but it can be altered. Teaching your children to express their feelings through words instead of actions can be another alternative to get over their rage and/or anger.
On the other hand, you do not have to cut out violent video games and television shows, but you could limit how much of it they do watch. Melanie Moore, a psychologist who works with urban teens explains “Children need violent entertainment in order to explore the inescapable feelings that they’ve been taught to deny, and to reintegrate those feelings into a more whole, more complex, more resilient selfhood.” Even those imaginary powers can help kids overcome insecurities, and become more of a social butterfly who knows and understands how to control his/her feelings and emotions. Gerard Jones expresses this idea in saying “Pretending to have superhuman powers helps children conquer the feelings of powerlessness that inevitably come with being so young and small. The dual-identity concept at the heart of many superhero stories helps kids negotiate the conflicts between the inner self and the public self as they work through the early stages of socialization. Even destructive heroes help children learn to push back against modern culture that cultivates fear and teaches dependency.”
In every child there is a little superhero that wants to come out. Not all children choose to be involved with violence, but keeping it from them is no way to let them live either. They need to know and understand what they are feeling and to find additional alternatives to healthily rid these hateful and raging emotions to ensure they have a more successful, happy future without confusion between what is reality and what is imaginary.
Not to mention, you never want a child to grow up impatient with anger problems. Especially not like this angry little girl here.