Dealing With Alcoholic Parents

Alcoholism is a family disease. The alcoholic affect the economic conditions of the family. It is miserable that some children have to live with a parent who drinks. It may perhaps affect and challenge the child’s life. They might be afraid because they think that their parents are going to fight or their parents might abuse or neglect them. Children of alcoholics may feel guilty and might think it is their responsibility that their parents are alcoholics. The child may feel angry since they don’t have parent who are going to help, support or be there for them. They will also feel unloved, and depressed. They learn to avoid upsetting the alcoholic parent or avoid being held responsible for their parents drinking.

Alcoholic parents set a bad example for children, who themselves are at risk for becoming alcoholics. They possibly will run away from home, or hurt themselves. Children of alcoholic parents suffer painful of personal shame and embarrassment because as children they often blame themselves. Their confidence or faith is damaged and that damage carries over and can negatively affect every aspect of their adult life. They often experience anger and a sense of loss about the childhood they never had.

Children should know that they are not responsible for their parent’s alcoholism. People should to be living examples of responsible drinking behavior. If parents abuse alcohol, they cannot expect their children not to follow their example, and begin to drink. Parents need to get help and stop drinking to raise their children to avoid alcohol problems. Children are part of their life and future and they deserve nothing less.

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2 thoughts on “Dealing With Alcoholic Parents

  1. I agree that the kids are the real victims when it comes to having an alcoholic parent or parents. A lot of times the kids do not know what to expect because the mood or personality of the parent most likely varies quite a bit from when they are drinking versus when they are not. The childresn self esteem will most likely be very low as well sinc the parent may not be very involved with them. I think as well that it can have long lasting consequences with the childeren as they may not know how to cope with situations when they get older and resort to what they know, drinking. I say a statistic that childern of alcoholic parents are much more likely to grow up and become dependent on alcohol or drugs. I would hope that someone would recognize the symptoms or even it they directly encounter the issues would try to get them some help.

  2. I absolutely agree with you in this particular issue about “Dealing with Alcoholic Parents”. Alcoholism is not only a family disease, it is far beyond that. Alcoholism destroys a beautiful family relationship, children’s life, and a respectful community life. I can give an example which will better explain the worst thing about alcoholism and its effect. When I was in my country, my friend’s uncle, an alcoholic who consumed alcohol every day, beat his wife and his children, used bad words, and he does not give enough money to his wife to run the family. Somehow his wife managed to run her family, and she often advised her children not to follow their dad’s behavior. She taught them to be good people and to study well. Her first son did not listen to her advice. He stopped his studies and started drinking alcohol same as his dad did.
    He made friendship with the wrong crowd while drinking and lost respect of his family, relatives and neighbors. Some relatives complained about him to his dad while he was not drunk. One day, his dad asked him harshly “why do you drink so much alcohol and why do you not respect other people?” The son got angry and slapped his dad in front of the family members. The dad was shocked, and he was ashamed of himself, but he could not do anything because he ruined his son’s life. Now he got his reward for that. After the incident, he stopped drinking alcohol, but his son did not. His son became an outcast in his own house and society. Parents’ behavior always reflects in their children life.

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